Social Media: a Blessing & a Curse
This has been a topic near and dear to my heart lately. I don’t really care for Facebook/Twitter, Vine (is that still a thing? lol), Snapchat, blah blah blah… but I do care about Instagram and really like it. There’s a downside, though. I catch myself unnecessarily scrolling until I’m deep in a rabbit hole looking at a jean or shoe company and before I know it I have said jeans or shoes in my cart and I’m ready to drop $xx amount because Jeanie has them and I think Jeanie is cool. Raise your hand if you’ve done the same!
When you’re in a vulnerable place or you are going through something like depression, anxiety, or even if you’re just having a one-off bad day, influencers you look up to kind of have power over what you suddenly need in your life. If Bethany keeps raving about her Freebird boots… hello, I’m going to eventually get them, at 3 a.m., when I can’t sleep and do all my online shopping. I will say, I don’t regret my decision. But damn, Bethany, you got me and you didn’t even realize you had that effect on your followers! Ugh! I literally did this with yoga pants the other day because for some reason I thought I NEEDED another pair of yoga pants since Nellie kept talking about how comfy and cozy they were. That’s just the tip of the iceberg. I read an article the other day about a girl who was in debt up to her ears because she was spending all the money and going to all the places just to get a good gram for her followers. LIKE WHAT?! I can’t make this stuff up, y’all.
Side note: I know y’all probably know that I am hiding the names of the actual influencers I’m talking about but I feel like I just need to go ahead and say it: I don’t know who Nellie or Bethany are. I made up those names. But you get where I’m going with this post and that’s what really matters, ya know?
I, and whoever else suffers with me, need to understand that influencers are influencing us… to spend money on what they promote. 1. That’s really incredible that people can do that and make a living! Like, kudos to them for busting butt and making it happen! 2. I don’t need every single plate, sweatshirt and coffee mug Jan has a discount code for. That’s not to say that Pricilla can’t use the discount to get that coffee mug with Dwight Shrute’s face. FACT: I own a Dwight Shrute coffee mug and love it (see what I did there, Office fans? haha). But in all reality, when I’m in a low place the influencers influence me waaaaaay more than they should. And again, it’s not their fault. It’s mine because I think I need all the things to be cool and hip and whatever. But I don’t. I went through a phase where I bought all the things and guess what? I was still in a rough phase and I was still unhappy. Most of those things I bought were also taken to Goodwill, Salvation Army, or were sold in a yard sale. So there ya have it.
I feel like I’m going no where with this and maybe it’s the fact that it’s almost 2 a.m. but social media can be strange.
Things I love about social media is the connections I’ve made and new friends I’ve gained from all over. I’ve met so many people through Instagram and some are now really close friends, which is AMAZING! I love food, photography, photography, art and just beautiful photos in general so seeing how people have carefully curated their feeds really inspires me. NOW, when I was in a crappy place, I would compare myself to that woman or that mom who seemed to have it all together. Here’s the thing: they don’t and they’re lying to you if they say they do. Life is hard. Being a mama is HARD. Don’t let someone’s perfectly curated feed stray you otherwise. Remember this! Don’t harp on the people with beautiful feeds, most of the time they are photographers, influencers, designers, etc. and are doing it for business purposes.
I still don’t know where I’m going with this… but I feel like you get it.
What are your thoughts on social media?